girls, listen up.

january fourteenth

two women who inspire me. michelle warkentin and my momma.

alright, so this is my second blog, and i'm seriously pumped! todays article is about an attitude that i have been experiencing and seeing within the highschool- specific to girls. i'd like to start by explaining, that i have never been in a dating relationship. however, i have obviously had ridiculous little 'crushes', and i have seen countless friends go through boys like i go through chip bags. i can definitely relate to the feeling a sweet guy gives. however, my fanatic craze over a relationship was significantly altered, when my family was cleaning out our storage room. my dad came out with a massive frame, containing every receipt, planning page, letter, and picture that he used before and after he proposed to my mom. as he read through his journals, and notes to my mom, we both noticed that my dad was crazy about her. the next morning, when my dad dropped me off for school, he made a comment, about how when he was in highschool, guys were crazy about their girl. he told me that they had to fight to win over their 'crush', and this got my mind spinning. as the week passed, and my girlfriends told me about their boyfriends, and crushes, i continually thought back to my dads comment. throughout the week, i literally heard at least five girls ask me who i was 'going for'. i had a concerning revelation. from what i see- and, imma be honest, i have seen a lot of this- it seems that the tables have turned, and girls have become the ones to pursue boys. and- since this blog is an honest word vomit- i don't think that this new situation is ok. i'd like to put this idea into reference, and investigate why girls have lowered their standards. really, i just want to present this theory, and explain why i think this isn't a great situation.

first of all, i think that boys have been 'feminized'. with these feminist moments happening globally, there has been an attack on men; (which will definitely be another blog topic) virtually creating sissies who can't do anything without stressing about whether or not said girl will have a fem-attack, claiming 'violation of rights', 'sexual abuse', or 'he thought i couldn't do it on my own'. nope. he was just being a gentleman. seriously though, when did opening a door for a woman become an offensive act? i think that part of the reason guys aren't pursuing girls anymore, is because it's risky. they're one move away from being driven to court. however, i'm not ready to put all the blame on feminists, because i see ways that boys treat girls- that i would absolutely not put up with, and i'm not even a feminist- and girls turn a blind eye about it. 'it's how he shows me he loves me!' no, that is just not ok.

this leads me into my next point, and that is the idea that boys have become the trophy. i'm seriously not sure how that happened, but i know that when my dad was young, girls were the trophies. now, the hot athletes get the girls. and all they do is look hot. girls work for the guy. they use the heart eyes filter when they snap them, they over-sexualize their mirror selfies to make boys drool, and they talk sweet to boost their confidence. boys send casual photos of the floor, and occasional photos of their face, and we say, 'aw, you're sooo cute!' and after we work on our hair for three minutes, and send them a mirror selfie, they say, 'you're hot.' and nine times outta ten, they spell 'you're' wrong. point being, girls work for guys. and once they get the guy, they fight hard to keep him. seriously, girls go to extreme measures to keep their boy entertained. this includes constantly apologizing for any fight that is surfaced, whether or not they were in the wrong, period.

and, believe me, boys aren't the ones to place all the blame upon. i think another factor contributing to this mess is that girls have lowered their standards. they don't expect boys to fight for them, so boys don't... and that's why the ones that do are the keepers. because they fight, even when it's not expected.

i also think that men working for their women is the way we naturally operate. i mean, it's the way it had been done up until this mindset shift... and, we see this activity performed in almost every species of animals; the males fighting for the females. i think that God created patterns and similarities between human beings and nature, and i think that these 'coincidences' provide a glimpse into how we have evolved from the way God created us to behave. of course, we shouldn't be just like animals, but there are specific things that we do relate to, and i think we need to observe these, before we stray too far.

anyway, i guess i just wanted to let girls know- you deserve to be fought for. and, seriously, when you are with a guy, ask yourself- is he fighting for you, or are you fighting for him? who is putting in the effort? it's just something to think about and consider. :)

xoxo

maya alejandra elizabeth casey